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Post by trisha on Aug 3, 2004 7:05:02 GMT -5
Thanks for posting that, Dom It's good to hear from our DTD!
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Post by Metella on Aug 6, 2004 8:47:57 GMT -5
I sent a snail mail letter weeks ago with the option to call me collect - still no word; so I am very concerned now. I have no idea of my next step.
Glad Ronnie is doing ok.
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Post by Ronni on Aug 8, 2004 16:43:04 GMT -5
Hi, you all. Sorry if I had you all worried, I'm pretty much okay. Had an abdominal ct scan the other day, don't know the results yet. Two of my daughters went through some life-threatening situations recently (on different occassions, for different things) and both nearly died, but both are okay now. Right now I'm still kinda stressed, but okay. Since I haven't been around too much lately, I don't know what's going on (no different from before, actually!) so what is going on with Lil'E? I gather you haven't heard from her lately, and that there is some reason to be concerned? I hope all is okay. DTD
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Post by trisha on Aug 8, 2004 17:41:08 GMT -5
Hi Ronni! It's so good to hear from you, and that you and your daughters are doing well. I hope you can join us more often Lil'E has had some trouble with a creepy pervert who was stalking and harassing her. She has also had trouble with a bad phone line that made joining us online very difficult. She was popping online to keep us posted on her battles with the perv, and to let us know she was okay. It's now been many weeks since any of us have heard from her at all, though, and this is a terrible worry for us. I hope she's just on vacation and that we'll be in touch with her again soon.
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Post by Ronni on Aug 8, 2004 17:55:08 GMT -5
Wow, that IS scary. I hope she's okay, too. I plan on being here more often. It's nice to be back with friends!
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Post by janetcatbird on Aug 9, 2004 12:47:29 GMT -5
Yes, Ronni, we're all glad you're back. Sorry that you and your daughters ahd to go through so much trouble (like I told Kahlia, if I was anywhere close I'd've been right there with the casseroles), but it's good to know you're OK now.
If only Lil'E had given us another contact, her Mom, neighbor, that policeman she was working with...Metella, when you talked to her on the phone that while ago she didn't happen to mention any names, did she?
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Post by Observer2 on Aug 9, 2004 13:17:07 GMT -5
Hi, Ronni,
I’m so glad your daughters are okay. I know there’s not much in the world that’s more stressful to a loving parent than having one of their children in danger. Two in a row must have been pretty hard on you.
I hope you’re okay, too. Do let us know how the ct scan turns out. In case you’ve never been to Callahan’s Bar, I’ll tell you something they figured out a while back – Shared pain is lessened; shared joy, increased. So whether it’s good news or bad, share it with your friends – it makes it better, either way.
Metella,
I’m also quite concerned about Lil’E. I think if she planned a vacation, knowing your concern, she would have let you know. You have her address... if it’s too far to go visit, maybe someone else you know lives closer. At the least, I’d check with her local police. If you tell them you’re a friend who lives out of town and haven’t heard from someone who was being stalked, they might be able to let you know whether she’s been involved in an assault of any kind. I think once family has been notified the names of adult victims are matters of public record.
If the police are not willing or able to give out such information, another place I might think of checking would be a local paper, crime desk, especially if she lives in a small community with a small, local paper.
As you can tell, I’m pretty seriously concerned. I’ve had some contact with our local battered women’s shelter (though I’ve never needed it myself), and heard more horror stories than are good for me, I guess. But this doesn’t seem like typical behavior for Lil’E, so I am worried.
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Post by DiFiCult on Aug 9, 2004 21:08:00 GMT -5
I don't know Lil'E (I've read some of her comments), but I hope she and her family are ok. It sounds like ya'll tried her family and mail.
I don't know if this will alarm anyone or make them feel better. If she's being hassled, she might be at a shelter or out of town. Shelters often enforce no contact with the outside world. Most of the women aren't allowed to call anyone. We didn't even have internet capability in the public rooms (just the main office for the staff). They ween't allowed to go outside in many cases. I was just a volunteer, but I know it was frustrating and very confining. I was in one involving detox, so it was pretty restrictive for that reason as well as the domestic violence issue.
I've heard that the underground safe houses are more common with people who are being "stalked" vs. a domestic violence situation.
It can be serious, so sorry I can't help. I hope she's just out of town. My thoughts are with her. I hope it's not something bad like this issue, or a family emergency, etc. Sounds like some people on the Board have been going through a lot of difficult issues.
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Post by Metella on Aug 11, 2004 7:18:47 GMT -5
Well, she wasn't being battered - she was a friend of the female who was ..... however there was another twist to the whole tale & Lil'E promptly let the probation officer know ..... I had contact with her for weeks after that, so I am doubtful that it was this situation, but it still may be. I will try to take you up on your suggestions Observer and call the local PD & see what they may be able to dig up for me.
I know that local PD once knocked on the door of a college boyfriend of mine because he didn't answer his phone for ONE WHOLE DAY and his Mommie was getting worried. ha ha ha now that was funny.
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Post by janetcatbird on Aug 11, 2004 20:43:18 GMT -5
I think you're right Metella, Lil'E would have called or posted to vent about the buttwipe if he had been giving her trouble. Let's hope that's the case, I myself get a bit paranoid. But of course, soon as you hear anything you'll let us know. Best outcome would be Lil'E writing back going "I'm OK!" and chuckling over all us mother hens.
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Post by domenicaflor on Aug 15, 2004 21:31:40 GMT -5
I don't know Lil'E very well, but I certainly share everyone's concern.
It seems as though a bunch of people are dropping out of the LOCI/D'Onofrio fan base (on various boards). Here active one day and Poof! gone the next. I would hope that was not the case with Lil'E since she seemed to be a great contributor.
Maybe Lil'E would feel more comfortable dropping a note to the mods to let everyone know that she was OK? I know that usually if I leave a board I for whatever reason I drop a quick note to the mods to let them know.
Anyhow, sending good thoughts to Lil'E.
D.
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Post by janetcatbird on Aug 27, 2004 13:48:26 GMT -5
So, have we had ANY word on Lil'E? I hate to be paranoid, but at this point I'm worried. Lil'E, if you're there let us (Or Metella at least) know you're OK.
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Post by romulanavatra3 on Sept 5, 2004 10:54:35 GMT -5
mettlea any updates on Lil'E its been awhile. we are all getting very woorried now so please update when you have got something.
regards rom.
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Post by janetcatbird on Sept 15, 2004 16:29:06 GMT -5
Was it something we said? I feel like Charlie Brown at the mailbox: "Helloo in there..." If anybody has any way to get in touch with Lil'E please do so, I for one am bothered and bewildered.
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Post by Metella on Sept 16, 2004 7:38:31 GMT -5
no response to my snail mail or phone calls - her voice was still on the machine a few weeks ago .....
Of course, something terrible could have happened, could happen to all of us - some accident that ends our life there is also another possibility sans the deranged boyfriend of her friend & that is personal.
I guess we will have to wait & hope to hear something positive.
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