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Post by Criminal Mastermind on Feb 8, 2005 14:24:39 GMT -5
Thanks for the kind words, everyone, now stop it! You're make'n us blush Anyway, you should really be thanking each other for being so cool, because you're the reason we put this place together and the reason it's such a fun place to hang out. Thanks for being great fans, and great people
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Post by Patcat on Feb 8, 2005 23:07:18 GMT -5
You guys do a great job--I have no idea how you put up with all of us.
Major mojo happy karma!
Patcat
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Post by Major Hathaway on Feb 9, 2005 10:42:11 GMT -5
Thank you all; but I have to mirror our MasterMind .... This community has run smoothly - I have had much less to do than I thought I would. I have been impressed by the way this group has worked together and kept on point with the guidelines. I have enjoyed this whole experience. Smoochies all around
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Post by domenicaflor on Feb 9, 2005 13:29:01 GMT -5
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Post by romulanavatra3 on Feb 11, 2005 4:32:26 GMT -5
hey all just dorpping by to see how everyobdy is doing. hey mettela trisha, oberserver annd all the rest of you on the other side of the world hows your winter, at the moment in australia( well at least in perth we are having a good summer not hot and dry likes some privious ones). oh well catch you all later. reagrds rom.
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Post by Metella on Feb 11, 2005 13:01:02 GMT -5
I have a loaner car while mine is being repaired .... got 1/2 inch of snow that turned crusty last night .... loaner car didn't have a windshield scraper!!!! So I drove to work without use of mirrors or back window. I got in my lane & just drove. That answer your question Rom? but I still LOVE the snow, it's just better in your own four wheel drive.
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Post by janetcatbird on Feb 11, 2005 16:36:08 GMT -5
Whoa, Metella, ick. A couple weeks ago when I drove home the windshield was fogging up--on the INSIDE--even with the wipers going. I spent over 70 minutes ont he interstate having to lean over my steering wheel to try to wipe a peephole, and I have short little arms. Ugh. This week we went from very nice (60s) to nasty today--temp in the 40s isn't bad, but the wind blows hard and ick.
Rom, glad to hear from you!
Hope everyone had a good Mardi Gras. Mama brought up some gumbo and king cake for me, normally I give up sweets for Lent but there's no point letting such goodness go stale...hee hee. Thankfully I didn't drop it all over the floor this year. Unfortunately Carolina lost to DUke by ONE FRIKKIN POINT!! ARGH!! (I don't got here, but old habits die hard.) Sorry, I just hope my singing in "Casey" isn't jinxing my teams. FOr fans in a stadium we're very verbose, anybody know some good clean insults for the umpire and pitcher?
Anyways, it's Friday, thank the lord. I stocked up on tapes for Turner Classic's Oscar festival, where's my movie buddy, Techguy? Plus, I got an unexpected and much-needed refund from the school today, yay eatin' money! Take carel, and stay warm--or for Rom and the Ozzies, keep cool!
Catbird
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Post by Techguy on Feb 11, 2005 19:29:16 GMT -5
anybody know some good clean insults for the umpire and pitcher? This one usually works like a charm for me: "Hey, didn't I see you two in Dumb and Dumber? YEEESSSSSS! I had to make an unexpected run to my local big box to get reloaded for "Philadelphia," "The China Syndrome," and "I Never Sang For My Father" which ran back-to-back-to back last night. TCM has been coming through with some old favorites plus some unexpected goodies like the three already mentioned. Will I be able to pull myself away from the TV anytime before the 31 Days of Oscar is over? Not if I can help it.
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Post by janetcatbird on Feb 13, 2005 18:18:44 GMT -5
Techguy, I went through this in October, I make about a 2 page list of stuff they're showing and then I remember that I'm a poor college student who can't afford to keep buying all those tapes. For now I'm trying to limit my recording to those that are either 1) favorites 2) have some of my favorite actors or 3) look really interesting and are not available at the local rental place. And if I get a dud by mistake--"The Corn is Green--I can just tape over it.
Got "Magnificent Seven" yesterday, as I think Yul Brynner is just terrific fun to watch. ("Seven Samurai" comes on Tuesday AM, thank the lord for VCR timers!) And today I taped "Georgy Girl," looked interesting but my roommate and I were studying so I didn't cut the thing on. It looks like I'll be getting some of the big names and a few musicals this month, thankfully the local CVS has 8-hour tapes so you can get a 3-pack and be good for quite some time.
Oh well, for once I have been a productive student, got all my reading done, including most of Tuesday, and even managed to hit the Rec Center for a while, go me! Sorry, I take my little triumphs where I can. And now I got to type the dorm newsletter so I can watch tonight's ep without distraction. Later all.
Catbird
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Post by janetcatbird on Feb 16, 2005 23:20:13 GMT -5
OK, college dorm life whine coming on. I'm getting really irritated with my roommate. To put is simply, with everyone in the dorm and in her department she is outgoing, friendly, and sociable. That's with everybody except me, the one who lives with her. When it's the two of us alone in the room she is surly and refuses to acknowledge my presence. I say "Good night" or "Good morning" and she ignores me, I ask how her day was and she snaps out a "Fine" as if she resents basic common courtesy. And she'll go from laughing to sulky in three seconds as soon as people leave the room, I'm dead serious.
Back in December she mentioned the possiblility of going to another room, asking if I'd be OK with that. (Somehow I managed to refrain from commenting about letting the door hit her where the good Lord split her, yes, I can be polite when I have to be.) I asked her if I had done anything to make her uncomfortable and she quickly said I was fine, she just wanted to be with friends. It's the same thing she told our RLA, whom I also spoke with some time ago.
The RLA has the impression that siad roommate doens't even know there's a situation, and that bringing it up might just make things awkward. Because we share space well--we don't fight or steal each other's stuff and we don't sexile each other, so things could be a lot worse. And I had planned to just go through the enxt few months ignoring her as well, but now I'm really getting irritated at the discrepancy between how she treats everyone else and myself. Because I don't think I've done anything, I've tried to be considerate without being a mother, I make it a point to remain polite and civil without forcing anything. (I thought about being so sugary sweet it'd drive her nuts, but I just can't bring myself to be that nice.)
She is a freshman, she's never shared a room before. I've tried to account for the adjustment period--she's used to having her own space, and it's still a bit of a shock to find someone in her room--but this has gone on since August for crying out loud. If I talk to her I've gotta be nice about it--but the thing is, I'm not sure I want to really talk with her any more than I do. So, any ideas/suggestions?
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Post by MelTex on Feb 17, 2005 0:08:59 GMT -5
OK, college dorm life whine coming on. I'm getting really irritated with my roommate. To put is simply, with everyone in the dorm and in her department she is outgoing, friendly, and sociable. So, any ideas/suggestions? Janet, I feel your pain. I spent my Freshmen and half of my Soph. years in a little dorm room with a girl who had ZIP social life. She was ALWAYS there when I'd come in, she never dated, never went out with friends (if she had any) and was the biggest bookworm I'd ever met. On the up side-- she was quite, (cept in the morning when she'd wake me opening her cereal box! *grrr*)neat freak, and she never touched my side of the room. I think people who've never lived in a dorm, don't grasp the concept of truly how small they are. Its like living in a card-board box with another person...least thats the way it was for me (I lived in a dorm for 3 of my 4 1/2 yrs of college) So if your not getting along with them, in a dorm its magnified ten-fold! My roomie got pretty snippy with me after a while about TV and the fact that I was actually comming in after 9pm ( cause God forbid, I had a life). So when she announced she was moving to a private room down the hall, I nearly had to tone down my excitement-- saying "What can I do to help you pack?" *smirk* And I know all about RLAs. If your not killing eachother, having wild sex, or disturbing the peace with shouting matches or furniture throwing, the RLAs are pretty much like..."eh...get over it. I don't want to go through through trouble of moving you". My RLA in one dorm was a nazi, you basically had to be bleeding out of every opening, before you could knock on her door. And another in the second dorm kept coming by telling me my TV was too loud -- while the girls next door were having a freakin Rave party (she was chicken of them)! *Mel does NOT miss dorm life...my first apartment was heaven!* So basically if your rommie won't talk to you and you would really rather her move out and have a private room...maybe you should see if thats what she wants too...since she brought it up before. If you have a Dorm Director, maybe you can go to her/him and see what it would take to change roomates or get a private room. I know some PR rooms cost more...wouldn't hurt to ask. Sounds like she may be a little manic-depressive...from the mood swings. My old roomie with no life was always on the phone to mom and dad crying about how hard life was and how homesick she was. Jeeze the girl was a 4.0 student, and studied 18 hours a day...never going out to blow off stress! No wonder she would have break downs! But that doesn't sound like your roomie, she sounds like she actually has a life. So I dunno... Maybe she's just not used to bing in such a confined space. I know it took some getting used to for me my fresh year... but I adjusted pretty quick...I was nearly never there, just to sleep and study. But you should talk to her, or at leased try to bring it up. You guys have to live together, so you're gonna have to talk about the tension sooner or later. I never really knew how to talk to my first (stodgy) roomie cause she was so old fasioned, sheltered and such. We had very little in common. My second roomie was in my major with me, we hung out with the same crowds and she was ALWAYs gone doing something -- so I had our little room to myself most of my junior yr. I guess try to bring it up -- non-confrontationally and see what happens. Maybe sh's having personal problems, but if it does have something to do with you, its only mature that she let you know whats up. (I say mature, but I'm well aware most freshmen are still in highschool mode when starting college...maturity only comes later down the road) And to some... never at all...*laugh* I dunno if any of this helps, just wanted to let ya know.. hey I been there, done that...and yes, I have the tee-shirt "Dorm Life can Suck" too! (j/k) *thank God for apartments and graduation* smoochies and good luck~ Mel
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Post by janetcatbird on Feb 17, 2005 0:42:04 GMT -5
Mel, Private rooms are not an option in this dorm--we've got a special program that revolves around seminar classes so the only ones who get private rooms are the CAs (those are our students in charge of each floor). The RLA I talked to is the adult director who lives here, she's very nice and she's helped people switch out before. Apparently what happened when my roommate mentioned moving out back in December was it didn't quite work out for her and a friend to move in together, she could either move in with someone who was staying put or stay with me, and she opted to stay. Not that I heard any of this, all I heard was "I might be moving out" and then nothing, even though she said she'd keep me posted. COurse I didn't want to start yanking down her posters "When you leavin?" (I didn't know any of this until I talked to the RLA.) So I don't think she's aware that there is a situation, or maybe she just doesn't care. ANd I'm not about to move out because this is a huge room, I mean nice size for a house, much less a dorm. I lucked into it last year and squatted, so I'm not giving up. I'm the sophomore, I'm pulling rank. Besides, there isn't really a place I could move to, and for two and a half months it's just not worth the hassle.
My feeling is that Roomie can be social, and then she needs to withdraw, and she's not happy about having to share her private space. I'm the same way, but I at least try to be civil to the people I live with. Truth be told I sound a lot like your first roommate, I'm too tired at the end of the day to really go out and do much, so maybe she feels a little intimidated. But in our summer emails she did have that whole thing about "I hope to make a lot of friends", she seems to have done that, just not with me. Which is odd, cause she was really nice the first week, and then soon as classes started she seemed to resent the slightest thing I said to her. She is a music major, maybe she feels that she's above such trivial, trite conventionalities as mere manners. She does have a bit of a diva thing, besides the music she dabbles in poetry--the one I saw in a dorm publication was aloof and condescending towards the "little minds", so she's quite convinced of her own importance. After the SUperbowl I left a simple "Yeah Patriots!" message on my board, of course the Pennsylvanian's gracious sportsmanship led her to write "F*** the Patriots" on hers. I left a little good-try note, at least you made us work for it, which she erased as soon as she saw.
I dunno, I guess she's in the rebel, "I'm away from Mommy and Daddy, I can do whatever the hell I want". situation. Whatever, I'm tired and I have class tomorrow, I'm going to bed. Thanks for the advice, Mel.
--Catbird
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Post by MelTex on Feb 17, 2005 10:37:04 GMT -5
Dang! She wrote that on your board? Thats a little uncalled for...jeeze! Well, you certainly can pull rank, You were there frist and you're an upperclassman. I know I did it sometimes with my second roomie. And your very lucky to have a big room, both of mine were roughly the size of a nice-sized bathroom. LOL. So when I got my apartment after my junior year...and had it all to myself...HEAVEN! Dude, if she's all social with others and not with you, and she writes stuff on your board like "F*** the Patriots", man, I dunno what to tell ya. Sounds like she might have some issues about something. Like I said, my old roomie was anti-social with me (and everyone) so when a free room opened up -- she left and I didn't have to deal with her anymore. Plus, with roomies, a lot of the time your stuck with someone you've never met, and then you have to share a space with them. It can suck major! I only met my older roomie right before we moved in, so I lucked out that she wasn't a psycho or anything. *grin* Maybe you can leave her a note and ask whats going on, if there is something you did somewhere along the line to make her be so anti-social with you. Maybe that'll get her talking. *chuckle* Or you could just write "Patriots Rule" all over her stuff and submarine her! (just kidding) Hope it works out! ~Mel
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Post by janetcatbird on Feb 17, 2005 11:06:42 GMT -5
According to the RLA, Roomie has been sort of curt and cold even with the instructors in the dorm, like her and our advisor (who walks on water in terms of classes and stuff). So the RLA is sympathetic to me even if she can't take sides. Until now I've tried to remain civil--I flatter myself that I don't want to stoop to her level, so there is a bit of my own ego and cattiness at play. SOuthern women are masters of the whole "Love your shoes, hate your guts!" thing, it serves me well.
As to the board, we each have our own little dry-erase on the door, I wrote on mine, she wrote on hers. Since she uses that kind of language on other events, I think it was just sore-tempered Pennsylvanian. (I'm used to Dookies so I was more amused then upset. Gave me a chance to feel smug and snooty for the rest of the day, even if I did fake nice and opted to not rub it in.)
I've pretty much made up my mind to say something, assuming I can get hold of her tonight. My thinking is that I can at least say I've tried, but also I'm going home this weekend--leaving tomorrow afternoon-- so if it doesn't go so well it'll at least give us a chance to cool off in our own space. Wish me luck, thanks Mel.
Catbird
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