More unflattering VDO tales from Scacchi

[eva]

I may ad, this was the first interview from her I read. I've read about her bashing before, but, as I wrote before, I don't really care about the personal lives of celebreties.

But feeling sorry for her was the first sentiment I got while reading this. If I had followed her statements in the past, I probably wouldn't be...

Many women- and men- have a hard time dealing with past relationships. It happens all the time. The problem is, normal people like us don't have the media waiting for the next embarrassing statements.

By the way, a friend of mine was left on her own with five children about two or three years ago. A normal young woman that now has to look after the kids all by herself while the father lives with his new girlfriend and her children. I'm pretty sure, if she got to read some of the interviews you guys mentioned, she would just love to have a little talk with Mrs. Scacchi

[DonnaJo]

I went back & read the entire interview that annabelle posted, not just the excerpted section. I was intrigued by her comment that to this day, their relationship as parents to Leila is still a struggle. So it isn't just the past that she can't overcome. They have to deal with each other NOW. I'm sure that is why she can't let go.

She states that VDO just wants to do the "fun stuff" with Leila, not share in the tough parenting role. As someone who is from a divorced family, this really hit home. I also see it all the time with my clients. Divorced Dads who don't see their kids all of the time really dread having to be strict & enforce rules & regulations. So they just let the kids do whatever, give them whatever they want, and return them home to the mother who now has to reinforce the rules.

[ragincajun]

Other side of the Coin, Alec Baldwin claims when he tried to be a strict parent with his daughter, the courts claimed he was abusive. So the non custodial parent is stuck between a rock and a hard place.

[maherjunkie]

Strict my ass! We've seen what he can do.

[outerbankschick]

Considering the things I've read from Ms. Scacchi, I take her statements about Vincent's involvement with a grain of salt. And not because I'm a DroolingFanGirl. I will only give her half of the benefit of the doubt because I've seen enough bitter struggles between exes who are trying to raise their kids. I agree with another poster who said the non-custodial parent is between a rock and a hard place. This is very often the case.

Also, I wonder if Ms. Scacchi's resentment and ongoing bitterness has anything to do with why they have a difficult relationship now. And I wonder if she has stopped to consider this.

Of course, without hearing from Vincent himself, we know nothing about his side of things, either. Ms. Scacchi has been throwing verbal arrows at him for years. We don't hear him throwing any back at her. At least not publicly. Which is, I think, how it should be.

It does bug the hell out of me that she spouts off in public like this when they have a teenage daughter to think of! Girls look up to their daddies. They want their daddy's love more than anything. Having her mother badmouthing him strains the relationship in ways that will only become apparent as Leila gets older and begins to get into relationships with men.

[outerbankschick]

I'm going to get all psychological here for a moment. Ms. Scacchi mentions that Vincent was "a very insecure man" and "a titanc ego like my father". She says he did to her what her father did to her mother.

I wonder if it has yet dawned on her that she picked a man who was, at that time in his life, exactly like her father because that was where she was comfortable? Women often do this. I did it myself.

I think the woman needs an epiphany here. She chose him based on a pattern that she was used to living out. He obliged by being the person he was at the time. They got sucked into the drama and their relationship imploded.

An open note to Ms. Scacchi: It's time to make peace with yourself and move on. There's no changing the past and why waste the future by constantly looking back and feeling bitter? Do your daughter a favor and respect her father, even if you have to grit your teeth a little while doing so. Then, when you are alone, you can throw yourself a nice tantrum, get it over with, and stop having these public eye-poking-fests over things that cannot be changed.

Going back and reading this again got me going on the father/daughter dynamic here. I apologize for being long-winded.

[deathroe]

I'm not sure I believe anything that I read, especially print interviews, which are no doubt some compromise between what the subject said and what the interviewer heard. Unless we were there, we don't know what they are or even said/say. We know how what they may have said is presented.

I also doubt that any of us plebs know the first thing about Scacchi OR D'Onofrio. We may feel that we know them, as is very often the case with celebs; however, what we actually know is their image, plus our interpretation of that image. Now, Scacchi may be assisting in the creation of her own image, or trying to give herself some mystique (the VDO fling is part of her personal legend, remember). Beyond that, we have no idea of the intimate facts.

Or as Sergeant Greevey said, "You can never know someone else's story"

[fuzzytweetie]

Sounds to me like Greta needs all the press she can get in order to get her name/face in print for her new projects. Using VDO as a constant scapegoat seems to create an excuse just in case her future projects flop. I'm sure BOTH of them had something to do with their divorce..........it takes two to get married. Neither is perfect..........but at least have the dignity not to keep airing your dirty laundry in public. Constant VDO bashing is not very becoming of Greta. I would think that her husband and daughter just roll their eyes and do everything possible to keep their mouths shut.

[DonnaJo]

You know, I mentioned that I deal with women who have been abandoned by their spouses, left alone to raise the children & make ends meet. There are so many emotions these women go through - grief, anger, loneliness, panic, ego deflation....I could go on. Some women bounce back in time emotionally, while others can never really let go of that anger & betrayal.

What makes things worst is that Greta has to deal with Vincent all of the time because of Leila. Who knows...maybe he hasn't always been the ideal Dad? Maybe he still isn't?

I'm willing to suggest that Ms. Scacchi doesn't plan on discussing VDO when interviewed. But it comes up, and when provoked she can't keep mum about it. She has to vent, being such a dramatic individual.

Or...she really wants the world to know the truth about him (her truth, that is). She doesn't seem to care that these revelations make her look bad too, weak & ineffectual. Not to mention how it might affect Leila.

I think Leila is very aware of how her Mom feels about her Dad. Just as I am very aware of how much my Mom can't stand my Dad. I've learned not to let it affect me or my feelings about either parent. Hopefully Leila has done the same.

[fuzzytweetie]

At that time in their lives I'm sure both were insecure, immature, egocentric and stressed to the max about getting more work. Both were probably "drama queens". However, airing your dirty laundry over and over publicly, and constantly blaming the "ex" for all her woes has turned her into a "Diva". Grow up, show a little class lady. Stop dwelling on yourself. Apparently Greta doesn't care how all this press affects her children and her husband (even if he is your cousin........eewww). I suppose that if her future projects fail she'll blame VDO for that, too. What if she succeeds? I bet she won't say a word about VDO, unless of course the success should have come earlier but she was still traumatized by her divorce.

Show some respect for ALL parties involved. Drama queens and Divas are a dime a dozen. Think about your children. Always blaming some one else doesn't set a very good example.

[sabry]

surely there are still too many grudges but I suspect that these interviews always brought to relaunch his career of actress.The interview does not respect her daughter and her new family.
I find it very sad