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Post by michael on Mar 11, 2005 16:54:26 GMT -5
Janetcatbird: (I can definitely identify--I graduated from Carolina, but have two sons at N.C. State. ACC Tournament is interesting around here... ) I also agree with the hesitancy to call my elders by their first name. When I began teaching, an older lady on the faculty told me not to call her "Mrs. Garner". She said, "If you're going to come here and make me feel old (I was a former student of hers), the least you can do is call me by my first name!" But I simply could not do it. And I have corrected my kids (two still in high school and two in college) anytime they spoke that way to an older adult. This definitely has changed in the last twenty years. Many younger teachers at my school (grades seven and eight) allow their students to call them by their first name, something I've never allowed. I'm not sure that celebrity status would matter,and I'm not sure either way is "right" or "wrong". I guess it's just the way we've been taught. (It's probably "much ado about nothing"--I'm going back to watch another basketball game...
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Post by NicoleMarie on Mar 13, 2005 18:34:47 GMT -5
I'm relieved I'm not the only person who still says Miss Kathryn or Mr. Vincent. LOL! ;D After thinking about it, I usually ask a person if I can call them by their first name if they introduce themselves to me by their full name. Usually, the answer is yes. I always thought having you refer to them as "Mr. D'Onofrio" an indication of not being friendly, trying to distance themselves from you. Then again, I have never been a very formal person and when people are very formal with me, it hurts my feelings. I'm SUCH a girl! Better yet, if uncertain of a person, I chose not to address them at all and watch and see how other people address them, then follow suit. hehehehe I had a psychology teacher who insisted we call him Dave. LOL! And I have had people tell me "stop calling me Miss or Mister! And it usually takes about 30 different times because I am so conditioned in the opposite way!
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Post by bdbrowski on Mar 14, 2005 13:36:31 GMT -5
That you would say "Miss Kathryn" tells me you must be from the South. I think saying that would work on anyone. I have a client the same age as I am from Mississippi who calls everyone, including me, Miss first name or Ma'am (and dear and sweetie). His Southern charm can basically get me to do anything he wants as a favor. (I can't tell you how many times he has gotten away without paying his bill.) -Beth
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Post by MelTex on Mar 14, 2005 15:31:54 GMT -5
Also beign from the south, I can state that calling someone by Miss or Mister, replying with Sir or Ma'am, was something ingrained into me as well. It was always a matter of respect...
Upon first meeting though, saying Mr. D'Onofrio would be what I'd say, until he invited me to call him different. Even then, it would probably be "Mr. Vincent or Mrs. Kathryn"
I only call others by first name, be they older or younger, only when they invite me to do so. My boss had to "TELL" me to call him by his first name, he said it made him sound too old to be called otherwise, even by me! LOL!
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Post by Metella on Mar 14, 2005 16:39:50 GMT -5
One consideration has also not been given here - Mr. D'Onofrio is famous. This man gets his private time interrupted - and people he has no reason to know come up to him and start a conversation. Does he crave it? who knows but him. However, having complete strangers in a situation that should NOT call for any type of interaction call him by an intimate name, I just feel that is rude.
Like, we have to interact at the bank, grocery store etc - but not to have some just drive by and say - hey, what do you think about the death penalty, Nance? (instead of Nancy or Mrs. Rathford) ??
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Post by KATIE on Mar 15, 2005 2:16:00 GMT -5
Maybe a good point of reference in the letter, as NO ONE knows what he likes or dislikes its just speculation as all D`Onfrio things related are!!
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Post by Jinger on Apr 13, 2005 16:36:49 GMT -5
TEXTI am with you Katie I have a friend in Iraq who is an avid L&O all of them fan I wanted to have one signed for her she will really love it. I hope that he can respond and my prayers are with your neice I hope you recieve a response, as well as me for my friend.TEXTTEXT[glow=red,2,300]TEXT[/glow]
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Post by Metella on Apr 14, 2005 6:53:37 GMT -5
having a bit of trouble with our tags? I'm not a techno stellar; but what I do is copy the text I am wanting to alter; then perform the commands & then paste it back in where it now says TEXT. our mods may have a quicker way of doing it, but that can get you [glow=red,2,300]started[/glow]
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Post by Metella on Jun 15, 2005 7:02:22 GMT -5
update from Katie - she wanted me to let the board know that she finally did get an autograph for her family member & it has been given. Good news is nice to share.
While I am still doubtful of the attraction of an autograph given not first hand, I know it is there & am glad she got it. I would still be more thrilled with an autograph from Stephanie SenGupta, I think she rocks.
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Post by Cassie on Jun 15, 2005 14:57:42 GMT -5
I am happy for Katie, that one of her dreams came true Thanks for sharing. but I got to ask: Why would you be more thrilled with an autograph from Stephanie SenGunta then Vincent D'Onofrio? For me they would both have the same sentimental value. I have a "toy box" with all of my treasures from being in what I call VDOland. I think the most valuable items in this box are cards, and some homemade trinkets by the friends I made from all over the world. 20 years from now, I can see myself sitting on my front porch with some grandkids, and sharing some fond memories with them (Ohhhh, Ive got other treasure boxes, to reminisce through, like my kids stuff, photo albums, etc.....)
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Post by Metella on Jun 15, 2005 15:21:30 GMT -5
This would be because I am growing more and more anti-pop-culture-celebrity ...... I would not really want anyone's autograph whom I did not know personally anyway; but due to this thread I have really tried to see the attraction & can see it as maybe a talisman? a piece of history? I have the autograph of a college professor - I had him sign across the top of his published article on hurricanes. Joe and I were co-workers for about a year and he gapped at me when I asked. But I have never got buying say a picture that was signed enmass. Must be just my own mental block to not be able to empathise with this area. Once an autograph has been once removed from the original target - I just don't get it.
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Post by trisha on Jun 15, 2005 19:32:05 GMT -5
I can see that, Metella. I have some autographed stuff that was given to me second hand, and it doesn't mean nearly as much to me as the things I got signed in person. I also have a box of treasures, Cassie I have things that made their way to me from great people across the US and Austraila. I've never been a huge VDO fan, but I value these things very much because I value the people that sent them to me.
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Post by bammi on Jun 16, 2005 22:16:15 GMT -5
As you know, I AM a huge VDO fan, and I've got a box of stuff, too. And I do have an autographed picture of VDO which I got by writing to the set of C.I. This was a couple of years ago and I personally love it. But everybody's different, huh?
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Post by Sirenna on Jun 17, 2005 20:15:18 GMT -5
Trisha:
I think you're a VDO fan but in denial... ;D
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Post by BegToDiffer on Jun 21, 2005 9:03:07 GMT -5
About autographs, I guess its a personal thing. I never thought much about John Glenn. Then I was assigned to work on a project with him. Afterwards, I felt this urge to ask him for his autograph. He was very gracious and signed it to me. I found myself very moved. Today it hangs on the wall in my office. What I keep in my toy box are the photographs I have taken of people coming through town. I doubt that any of this stuff will be important to my grandkids.
Glad for Katie and her niece. What ever works for the child works for me.
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