Eames and Goren

[Rose]

To me, the partner-relationship between Goren and Eames has seemed a little different since Eames returned from leave and I was wondering if it was just me or other people sense it too. I'm not sure if I'm just imaging it.

[pompusone]

I agree the dynamic seems to have changed. Goren seems very subdued to me this season (especially post maternity leave) and Eames seems more assertive.

[Lilee]

I saw the thread title and, Woah!! FLASHBACK!!! Sooo glad you didn't take it in the other direction and get too Kindergarten on us! As for your 'poll', I just see them still working well as partners and that's good 'nuff fer me.

[Rose]

Flashback to what? And what other direction would have made it like kindergarten?

I didn't mean these polls to be controversial. I thought the questions were interesting and I wanted to know what others thought.

[Metella]

Rose, not long ago most members here belonged to a different and public board. This board was functioning in a manner that engendered adult thoughts and topics and did so for over 2 years.

Then a few members joined who for some reason decided that instead of the type of conversations found here, they would post things like, I Luv Goren, Do you think Alex would have Bobby's baby? What if Carver took Alex out - would Bobby cry? Pathetic crap like that.

So, while we tried to get them to stay on that board for certain conversations, but to please take that childish non-sense to other boards where it is not only seen, but welcomed - they didn't. For reasons I cannot fathom, they decided the nature of the board needed to be changed & so we left them to it and caused to be created this board, which is NOT public and so we can jointly decide when & how & if the board will change & what it will welcome or ban.

So - some of your posts were very close to going to the level we had turned our backs on. We like light hearted & even silly sometimes, but childish ramblings are not welcome here; and since there are so many other places for that outlet, I doubt we will change this desire.

[Criminal Mastermind]

Rose, if you are still reading here I want you to know that I don't think you have crossed any line of childishness. Your points on every thread have been valid and worth discussing. I'm sorry you felt so unwelcome here so soon.

The Major moved the thread because it was not where it belonged. If it were the kind of thread we frown upon, he would have just deleted it.

MM

[Rose]

Metella, I would be fascinated to know what posts of mine you find to be childish ramblings.

Go on. Please, quote them.

So far, the most childish rambling I see is that mean-spirited and immature reply you just provided to me.

If this is indicative of the tone of this board I will not stay. If anyone wants to ban me for saying that go right ahead. In the meantime, time will tell whether this is a classy place or a haven for people who engage in malice under the guise of being "mature."

[Metella]

Rose, I was answering your question - that I think Lil'E's post prompted you to ask. ? ? ? I never said you said anything childish.

Here is what you asked ....
"And what other direction would have made it like kindergarten"

So I told you what some of us had experienced in the past and how it could have gone that way again. You know, like if a person has been assaulted or raped, while they may not hate men, they are much more concerned when a stranger walks near them, eh? So us, when someone is straying into some area that we have watched disintegrate - we are more vigilent.

You asked, I answered & there was no malice in my answer - did you think so & why?

[Metella]

so, I just re-read my post answering your question; and can't see anywhere where I mentioned YOU or YOUR style or anything having to do with you ..... I was giving you a history ......

So while you have asked me to explain my post to you, can you please also point out what of my post you felt was personally directed to you? I am astonshed that you got anything negative at all from my post, let alone felt negative thoughts were directed at you.

[trisha]

Rose, Bravo! I'm so very glad you came back

Metella, I think this is the part of your post that upset her...

"So - some of your posts were very close to going to the level we had turned our backs on. We like light hearted & even silly sometimes, but childish ramblings are not welcome here; and since there are so many other places for that outlet, I doubt we will change this desire."

While I'm sure it was not meant to sound disparaging, it was just blunt enough to come off that way to someone who is not used to your style. It's not so much that Rose's posts were coming near that level, it was the titles of her threads that were a little scary because we have seen those titles before on another board, and those other threads were very childish and, in my opinion, written with a certain degree of malice by a couple of contumacious parvenus who saw a wonderful web community and decided to invade it with absolutely no netiquette whatsoever.

To compound our promblems, we also had a weak moderator who didn't have a shred of respect for the sort of community that existed, or the balls to stand up for it in the face of the things that were going on under his supervision. He actually asked ME to take care of it for him. Can you say LAME? I'm quite sure that Mastermind and the Major have no intention of beings as impotent as moderators as that other person. And I think they have proven themselves as caring for this board and the posters on it, so if there is a problem, they will handle it.

[Major Hathaway]

I'm watching, but I don't see a problem

question, response, question, response .... no name callings

just hashing out a relationship. Once it is hashed out though, I think I may suggest to all involved that I delete all the "hashing out threads"

this is not a necessary step & if any involved want me to keep the posts here, I guess I will

for now it is good to communicate, for future posts on this thread it's detracting.

Nice vocabulary, trisha.

for the record I'm not impotent

[Observer2]

Metella said:

...So - some of your posts were very close to going to the level we had turned our backs on. We like light hearted & even silly sometimes, but childish ramblings are not welcome here...

Metella, when I read this, I thought you were directly criticizing her posts and saying they were childish ramblings. I’m startled that you didn’t realize this would come across that way.

The first of those two sentences is very clearly talking about her posts. Nothing in the second sentence gives any indication that you’ve now started to talk about other people’s posts, so naturally she would think you were still talking about her posts.

I know you prefer “pithy,” and want to say things in the briefest way possible. Sometimes, though, that means you don’t give people enough words to follow what you’re trying to say.

[Metella]

ok

Sorry Rose for any bad feeling my post ellicited in you.

Sorry my communications are misinterpreted.

I'm so done.

[Lilee]

Not to be one to start something then walk away..... Just haven't been online last couple days.

Rose: As Metella suggested, I was simply reacting to the title of the thread.

[Rose]

Thanks guys for explaining.

Metella, I'm glad it was a misunderstanding.

All forgotten.

Rose